Recently I had the pleasure in attending a wedding of two very sweet people. It was fun watching them share their vows and seal their commitment to each other for a lifetime. I wish I could have stopped time and savored the moment for a little bit longer. But these precious times vaporize into thin air as fast as they come. If only I could decelerate time and make them last.
I’ll admit to being a romantic and love a good Hallmark movie from time to time. But what fascinates me the most is how people meet. How do two people from totally different families, upbringing and sometimes different parts of the world come together? Some would say it’s chance, but I believe there is a higher entity involved which makes the encounter even more special.
I remember when I was first married and thought I had it all figured out. As I look back, I have to laugh at myself because of how little I knew. Basically, all the knowledge I had about being married or being in a relationship was what I saw and heard from my parents and grandparents. Now I’ll admit I had some good examples to follow but it only got me so far until I needed help to improve my relationship.
So, I thought it would be fitting to dedicate this blog to Parker and Cassie and offer some old life advice to the newlyweds.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”– Carl Jung
You’ve found the person who you want to spend your life with to the end of time, why not make it a journey that the both of you will never forget!
Take time to listen to old sage advice. It may not apply to you at the time, but it may be worth tucking it away for future reference.
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”— Henry Winkler
Never be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. A wise couple seeks advice to better withstand adversity and improve their relationship. This will strengthen the bond between the two of you. Don’t forget that your family and friends are your greatest fans who are always ready to support and pray for you!
Relationships don’t last because of the good times; they last because the hard times were handled with love and care. – Anmol Andore
Love without boundaries.
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”— Thomas Merton
Forgive and let go of those grudges. No one is perfect, that’s why we’re called human. Remember that each of you have good and not so good stuff in your life. You are a work in progress, so allow God to do the continual work in your love’s life too.
“The ineffable joy of forgiving and being forgiven forms an ecstasy that might well arouse the envy of the gods.” – Elbert Hubbard
Be bold, audacious and a little crazy at times. Step out beyond your comfort zone knowing you have a partner in crime to make new and awesome memories. Adventure is needed in a relationship to help keep it alive. Trust me, you will look back on these times and laugh, cry and smile. They also make great stories for your grandchildren!
“As soon as I saw you, I knew a grand adventure was about to happen.” – Winnie the Pooh
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. This is how we learn.
Tough times never last, but tough people do. – Robert H Schuller
Don’t forget that this person you have chosen to be your soul mate for life deserves your respect, compassion, understanding and love from the deepest part of you. If you can’t do this, then you don’t deserve them.
Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love. – Don Miguel Ruiz
I’ll admit single life is easy but when it comes to being in a relationship, it takes work. The good times provide memories and the storms that rip through your relationship are opportunities for cultivation and growth. There will be a feeling of success when the two of you conquer adversity. You may come out a bit scathed with war wounds, but knowing you did it together will create a strong bond between the two of you.
I may be just an old lady talking, but I long to see this young generation succeed in the gift of love and companionship that lasts for a lifetime. I want you to have a chance to cherish the sweet moments in life.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Cover Photo by Sammi Hadaller